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When One of the Parents Begins to Step Up Consistently - Part 1

And now I am finding myself in a new position in Matthew’s life. Maybe it’s not so new as it is evolving. Matthew’s mother has been stepping up in his life consistently for almost a year now. At first it seemed superficial and I didn’t know what to make of it. But as time goes [...]

In Loco Parentis: When the Best Interest of the Child Conflicts With Loyalty to the Biological Parents for the Child and the Acting Parent

As the acting parent, designated by one of the biological parents (the father), I find that my loyalty to him, which was sincere, has come into sharp contract with the best interests of the child. I have also found that the child experiences many conflicts regarding his loyalty to his biological parents and me, his legal [...]

Get a Lawyer, BUT Do Your Own Work Too

Having the status of “acting parent” or “in loco parentis” means that you have unique parental rights compared to the majority of custody cases currently in the courts today. If you choose to fight for custody, then you are challenging the foundation and biases related to biological parental rights. In Pennsvlvania, the law stipulates that you [...]

Child Custody and Rummy 500

I have found that dealing with custody issues in court is a lot like playing a good game of Rummy.
First, you get all the good cards that you can. Don’t underestimate the value of each card. Good cards aren’t just the aces and face cards, those are obvious; good cards, played correctly, can be low-point [...]

Court Ordered Mediation and Conciliation

Court ordered mediation and conciliation sessions were created to help the parents or interested parties negotiate and come to their own agreement about custody issues. There are different kinds of mediations, some are in front of a judge, and some are not.
My experience without the judge, a clerk of some type, was awful. Instead of asking if [...]

Order of the Court: Guardian ad Litems & Psychological Evaluations

The law in Pennsylvania requires that the court consider what is in the “best interest” of the child. It does NOT state or insinuate that you have to prove that a parent is unfit. This is an important distinction, and well worth thinking long and hard about. The judge in your case may order that [...]

Legal Guardianship and In Loco Parentis - Acting Parent at School

When you’re in loco parentis at the school, you’re considered the legal guardian of the child. I have a copy of the form I used for legal guardianship. If you need a blank copy, just let me know. I’m happy to share my resources.
It’s important to know that as legal guardian, you don’t necessarily trump [...]

Legal Issues - What You Can Do

Document everything – all the time. Make it a habit like brushing your teeth or paying your bills. I created a spreadsheet in Excel that’s become quite handy. I add notes when appropriate and document all days that Matthew spends with his biological parents, grandparents or other family members.
If you’re a decent writer, I suggest [...]

In Loco Parentis - The Law in PA

For those standing in place of the parent, or “in loco parentis”, you can pursue legal custody rights after the child lives with you for a minimum of six (6) months.
I strongly encourage you to keep a journal from the first day your child moves in with you. Document everything. In the case that the [...]

Standing in place of the parent, or acting parent, or "in loco parentis" is a big job that comes with a unique set challenges. I created this blog to share my story and my experiences with those who find themselves in a similiar situation. I look forward to hearing your comments!

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